Despite what you see on social media, there is no perfect couple. They fight, say mean things, go to bed angry, and can have years or decades of unresolved conflict. It’s perfectly normal. Even the best of relationships have their moments, but the ones who can weather the storms and droughts are typically the ones who seek couple’s therapy. Why? Because the benefits extend beyond your relationship—therapy helps you on an individual level as well. You see, a couple’s therapy is not designed to devoting an hour a week to point out your flaws and apologize profusely. Rather, it is designed to bring out the very best in you and your partner, strengthening the quality of your connection, so that you can deal with differences and issues in a way that supports you in growing as individuals as well as a couple, even when there isn’t a therapist present to moderate.
To be sure, this process is not without its challenges. For couple’s therapy to be the most effective, it requires both partners to be willing to stretch themselves emotionally and embrace vulnerability. This promotes a sense of safety, empathy, and mutual understanding.
If you and your significant other have considered couple’s therapy, you are in the right place—I’m here to help!